How to Overcome the Mental Doubts That Hold You Back From Success
Is a Thief Inside Your Head Stealing Your Money?
I have another niche market I participate in and hope to sell products in. This niche market involves a sizable learning curve. I see people come and go in it all the time.
And from my own experiences and those I observe, there is ONE THING that keeps people from making progress. And that thing is self doubt.
1. You may doubt you have the ability to succeed in this business
You know, we all have self doubts. In learning the new skills I’m tell you about, I know I personally have had self doubt.“Is this something I can do? Is this a skill I can master? Am I TOO OLD?”
Yet,the conclusion I come back to over and over is that success in ANY endeavor is the result of behaviors. Change the behaviors and get the result.
Wherever you are, I’ve been there. I know what it is to doubt yourself or your ability. To not be sure if you have what it takes. To try and have your successes far outweighed by things that didn’t work.
It’s easy to get discouraged. To stop. To quit. To think thatthis is the end of the road for you. In this new arena and skill set area I’m working in, I’ve experienced all those feelings and emotions and more.
2. You may doubt your progress
It’s so easy to look at a few successes against more failures and think,“I’m not making progress.” I think this is the hardest thing. You have to tie a knot on your mental rope and hang on. Because the truth is, things almost always don’t work before they DO work.
You have to really tune up your focus on any successes you DO have. And notice the small successes. So maybe you don’t have a ton of sales yet. But you DO have people subscribing. Or you DO have some sales coming in regularly. Or you DO have your blog up and you ARE getting visitors now from Google.
You have to exaggerate mentally the successes you DO have because those are what show you that you ARE making progress and ARE on the right track.
3. Others will rain on your parade
So you finally get to the point where things ARE starting to work. All of a sudden in a forum or someplace, someone RAINS on your parade.They criticize your model, your idea or your efforts.
Maybe they tell you you are pipe dreaming. Or chasing rainbows. And you let it get to you mentally, spiritually or psychically.
I don’t know why this happens. Some people just aren’t very tuned in. You have to believe in yourself and what you’re doing more than anyone else. I don’t know why it’s that way. But it is.
4. You may have a set back
Man, this one is a challenge. You’re going along. You’re making progress. You’ve got some traffic. You’re getting subscribers. Sales are coming in.
Then you have a set back. Something happens in your life, your family, or some area that holds you back or slows you down.
For me last year it was a quadruple hernia. Not exactly what I had in mind for my year. But you move forward. That’s all you can do.
5. You may think or feel that finally you’ve reached a point where “it isn’t working.”
Anytime you’re acquiring a complex set of skills, that can happen. It’s a signal to do some things different. To up your Game. To tweak what you’re doing and how.
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